I know I'm fairly new (Been playing only about a month and a half now? I think? Somewhere around that.) and so whatever I say doesn't carry much weight.. which I completely understand. I just feel like I need to get something off my chest, because it's something that bothered me with a recent round.
2ND POINT: Several people in this very thread (no names, i'm not that kind of guy) were in the game this morning when some pretty serious meta/power gaming went down..and was admitted as such even in OOC as a "Well everyone else does it as antag, so fuck it". There was little to no one refuting them either, which I think dismayed me the most. I mean, yeah it sucks when people do it, but ever heard of that saying two wrongs do not make a right? I even had a brief LOOC conversation with the one player where they told me "If you come in here I'm going to powergame the fuck outta you, just sayin" and acted like it was a favor that they were warning me. I responded I wasn't here for that, I was here to RP. I guess they were just pissed because something happened earlier and they were now blowing off steam, they was a veteran player I've seen plenty of times doing quality RP and it just didn't feel right to Ahelp it or argue. But then the OOC chat blew up into a discussion of how it's basically the norm and everyone seemed so....resigned to it. Like.. oh well, this is how it is, might as well go with it.
If that's your attitude, it's sad. Especially if you are a veteran player, with time invested and relationships you've developed. I can't be the only one that feels like this.
Sorry for the rant, but this seemed like the right place for it.
As for the other points, I get it. I do. Even in my short time here i'm seeing my interactions and relationships with other players go up steadily, so I know it just takes time. That's all. Just like when you start a new school, there are cliches already established, some kids are more popular than others, and then there is you.. a nobody, yet. It takes time to build relationships and to get to the level where people will start to prefer you, actively seek you out, or just trust you in general because they know you can handle yourself. Hell, I'm not even whitelisted and I was given the Research Director role one round and it all just..worked out. Really well in my opinion. I know the game and how to play it, the hardest part is connecting with others and that's something that...as i've beaten into the damn ground by now...takes time.