return?

[Guest]

Is it shameful enough that I already know who that person is in particular?

Regardless, you don't answer to them. You may do as you wish, you do not have to respect their 'wishes' because they can't get over themselves.

[Loow]

Thundy.

I have spoken with the person in question and have told them how petty, despicable, and otherwise childish I believe their actions are in full view of several other players. I've known the two of you for a while, but I'll admit, not as long as I'm sure some of our community has. Their opinions largely mirror my own.

 

Is it shameful enough that I already know who that person is in particular?

Regardless, you don't answer to them. You may do as you wish, you do not have to respect their 'wishes' because they can't get over themselves.

 

Thundy: People meet in public places all the time, and this is no different.

Would you consider it reasonable to be asked not to return to a restaurant, library, or grocery store? Please don't leave over somebody who can't cope with vague proximity to another human being, particularly within a niche hobby with heavy community overlap.

The request that's been made of you isn't reasonable.

I'm gonna go ahead and side with the general opinion of other people here.

No one should have to ask you to leave a vastly public space over a breakup, where the most that will happen is that you might have to run into the person's name a few times on the forums, and you are completely free to ignore them otherwise (unless they're on the staff, in which case it's pretty fucked to ask.)

I understand not wanting to hurt whoever made that request, but that person is very immature in the first place to make such a demand.

obviously i don't know the specifics of your circumstance, but its my opinion that nobody should have the right to dictate whether or not you can go somewhere if you aren't breaking any rules or going out of your way to antagonize people.

so if you want to come back, come back

 

Specifics be damned.

Nobody has the right to tell you not to come back.

[SierraKomodo]

Thundy.

I have spoken with the person in question and have told them how petty, despicable, and otherwise childish I believe their actions are in full view of several other players. I've known the two of you for a while, but I'll admit, not as long as I'm sure some of our community has. Their opinions largely mirror my own.

 

Is it shameful enough that I already know who that person is in particular?

Regardless, you don't answer to them. You may do as you wish, you do not have to respect their 'wishes' because they can't get over themselves.

 

Thundy: People meet in public places all the time, and this is no different.

Would you consider it reasonable to be asked not to return to a restaurant, library, or grocery store? Please don't leave over somebody who can't cope with vague proximity to another human being, particularly within a niche hobby with heavy community overlap.

The request that's been made of you isn't reasonable.

I'm gonna go ahead and side with the general opinion of other people here.

No one should have to ask you to leave a vastly public space over a breakup, where the most that will happen is that you might have to run into the person's name a few times on the forums, and you are completely free to ignore them otherwise (unless they're on the staff, in which case it's pretty fucked to ask.)

I understand not wanting to hurt whoever made that request, but that person is very immature in the first place to make such a demand.

obviously i don't know the specifics of your circumstance, but its my opinion that nobody should have the right to dictate whether or not you can go somewhere if you aren't breaking any rules or going out of your way to antagonize people.

so if you want to come back, come back

 

Specifics be damned.

Nobody has the right to tell you not to come back.

 

I personally agree with all of the above. One person shouldn't control whether or not you do what you want

[Thundy]

Guys, you all are very kind. Honestly, after everything that has happened, your words have made me cry on numerous occasions. HOWEVER, I don't want to hurt the other person and I believe my presence would disrupt things in a way that would be more hurtful then not. My aim is to always be loving, no matter what the personal cost. What I ask everyone here to do is not to try and shame that person, but to get around them and love them. Both sides were hurt here and I feel like it's time that people begin to bring healing water and not fight fire with fire.

I'll ask that person again in a few weeks if it would be okay to log in as Thundy once more, but for now, this is how I'm going to deal with it.

Peace, fools.

[Rusty Shackleford]

I'm still going to say "fuck that person."

Because fuck that person.

[Johnny Mnemonic]

I'm still going to say "fuck that person."

Because fuck that person.

 

There's more nuance then that here in play, i think. There's a reason Thundy is doing this, she's smart. With my limited knowledge of stuff that happened, feelings were hurt. And that stuff takes time to heal. I'm not sure what Thundy's underlying reasons are, and i'm already goig beyond what my nervousness would allow me to on good days(hell, my brain is screaming that this is a bad idea)

Ultimately though, Thundy knows what she's doing, and the person, to my understanding, asked and worked this over with thundy, yea? Her not returning is as much of her fault as it's his then, it was her decision aswell. There is no need to bash and burn this mystery person now. No, if you really want Thundy back, then perhaps you should either allow time to mend the wounds, or if you're bold, try to help in a non destructive manner.

Or you could be a dick about it still. Not like she asked you not to be or like she might feel guilt , i'm sure that pressure won't have any impact on weather she'll come back or not

[Conservatron]

no need to be hostile towards anyone. as has been said its a complex issue. Given, one I think shouldn't be an issue at all but people react to these things differently. I'm cynical and disillusioned after having been through a number of breakups ranging from bad to horrible so they don't really affect me anymore, but from what I see i'm somewhat older than the majority of the server (judging from the confessions topic at least).

So do I think thundy should come back? yes. Do I understand why they'd test the waters and ask permission? yes. Do I think its at all necessary? no